cursed

I overheard a conversation a couple of weeks ago. I'm a nosy person and I have a tendency of just inserting myself into conversations without invitation. Ken Gillming, a VP at the school I attend, was talking to some students about the differences in the way men and women think. I have no idea the origin of this conversation, but he was saying that men have to think and feel separately. Women are able to do both simultaneously. Now, this does not make us better it just means we are a mess. This goes along with what I was saying in my last blog about the heart. Our emotions and our thoughts are woven together. It is difficult to separate our thoughts from our feelings. Someone once said, “men are like waffles and women are like spaghetti.” So true. Men compartmentalize in little boxes, and women are all mixed together—one thought connected to another.

Gillming then brought up Genesis 3 and the curse God put on Adam and Eve in the garden. Oh, that wretched curse! It's brought me nothing but heartache and trouble. Verse 16 says, “and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.” He offered a new point of view on this passage. As women, we've been cursed to desire our husbands. We've automatically put all of our desire and focus on the men in our life. We depend on them to fulfill us, complete us. We try so hard to find our security in them.

Now if you are anything like me and single, every man I'm interested in becomes a husband candidate. Therefore, I have a tendency of acting out the curse on every one of these men. This is where my last blog comes into play. I have allowed my heart to become unguarded and vulnerable.

We have to learn to control our emotions and not be driven by them. We have to fight against the curse. That's our sin nature. We have to go against our nature and return our focus on God. Our security should be found in Christ and Christ alone. Our desires and focus should be towards God not man. Men will let you down, but God will not. When you find complete fulfillment in God, then that frees up the men to be what God has called them to be and not what we want them to be. Takes a lot of pressure off their shoulders if they don't have to worry about being your everything.

I'm thinkin' maybe there should be a book about this. Hmmm...I'm going to have a lot of writing to do this summer :)